At some point last year, I read an angst-filled post from a very angry blogger who’d simply had enough. She said she was tired of supporting people (she shared a lot of stuff, she claims) who never did the same for her. None of the people she went out of her way to support, she went on to say, bothered to support her in return – not with even a little RT here and there. She announced the unceremonious end of her give a damn; no one was getting jack from her ever again.
And that’s totes her choice. Don’t ever let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. And she’s not the only self-serve only person out there; sometimes it feels like that’s the default setting. But that’s boring. When I see a profile filled with only things the profile owner has done, I normally turn around and not look back. Of course, there are exceptions but as a general rule, if you can only show your own personal greatness, I’m so not caring.
The only part of her diatribe that struck me as spoiled rotten was the expectation that she deserved the same treatment she’d claimed to give. From what she said and the abrupt was she said it, it seems she was only in it for what she’d gain. Really, that’s not the way to play the game. If you’re gonna devote some of your own space and time to someone else, do it because they’re freaking awesome and deserve ALL THE FANS without silently demanding they do the same.
I, for one, fill my tweets with other people’s stuff; it’s what fans do. Because, fans. I don’t keep track of who does and doesn’t do the same for me. That’s petty. And ugly. And I don’t do either. I know that some (okay, many) don’t do much more than like and RT their stuff or things I write about them. And that’s okay with me. When someone does do more than that (maybe evenFOLLOW ME), I appreciate it. Probably because the words about freaking time don’t fall from my lips; it’s more oh, how nice.
I schedule (with TweetDeck) a lot of not-mine stuff from various bloggers and vloggers I like. I also spend time writing about the best out there (These Are a Few of My Favorite Peeps I, II, III & IV) and my new monthly feature, The Black Book Shout Out (you can check out the first one here; the next drops March 21) and have more stuff planned. I like doing this. Obviously, the angry lady-blogger did not.
Speaking of her, I don’t even know what happened to her. I didn’t like the tone of the piece and stopped following her. Maybe she still hates being nice and continues living in her own world where only she matters. Maybe she got over it and realized how silly she was being and, once again, does nice things. After all, life is boring as hell when you’re the only one allowed to bask in your universe’s light.
Now be nice, ya hear? And share, share, share!